The other day I had my first appointment of the new year with my therapist. I’ve only been seeing her since August, but I feel like she’s a trusted friend. Whether that’s part of her job to engender that connection, who knows, but I feel like she’s a safe space…

It is never too late to be what you might have been. George Elliot For most of my adult life, I didn’t realize I was being groomed to play a part. One where I was the perfect ___ (fill in the blank), but most of it was not who I…

Some times you’re the windshield, some times you’re the bug.~ Mary Chapin Carpenter November 2022 These past few days I have been mired in molasses. Not the blackstrap molasses I’m using to make rum, but the one that you feel you’re swimming in, that slows your movements, that slows your brain. It…

On Seeing We are only as blind as we want to be. Maya Angelou There’s a phrase I learned in my collaborations with marketing: you don’t know what you don’t know what you don’t know (I throw in an extra “You don’t know” for measure). There are knowns, unknowns but…

On Being Triggered You’ve always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself. -The Wizard of Oz A couple of evenings ago I was having a good time with someone I’ve known since childhood. We lost touch for almost 3 decades after high school, and…

On Falling Apart Before something great happens, everything falls apart. -unknown Over the past couple of years my entire life has crumbled. Nothing was safe from destruction or substantial change. I experienced a multitude of painful endings, one after another. Family, friends, professional relationships — nothing was sacred. It’s been…

My biggest fear is that eventually you will see me the way I see myself. -Anonymous I was invited by a generous friend of a friend to stay in a house rental in Key West a couple of weeks ago. He had had friends cancel, an open guesthouse, and we…

It takes the average person seven times to leave an abusive relationship. Perpetual Neo I love musicals, and over the past few weeks I’ve been listening to The Greatest Showman soundtrack. Chasing your dreams, faith in yourself, taking that risk, being a misfit, going outside your comfort zone, owning your…

You are exactly perfect just as you are. Unknown Today, I met with a friend I hadn’t seen since the winter of 2019. Both our lives became hectic once the pandemic hit, and it’s one of those friendships that became interrupted. Distance, obligations, and priorities meant no spare time to…